Describe a conversation that you had this year. Why was it memorable?
Communicate [LISTEN]: This post is part of #Weverb12.
I cannot remember a particular conversation, and that’s not for want of trying. I actually went to gtalk archives to check but there were too many to peruse.
So this post shall be a tribute to MinCat who I have had so many great conversations with this year, and basically every year since we’ve known each other. The next best thing to having great friends right there in person is having a great friend who is online practically all the time you are. We have a lot of “going to pee/back” punctuating our chat marathons, which should tell you something. I sometimes lose track of the people that pop into MinCat’s life (she is very social, that one) but if there are names that don’t ring a bell or developments referred to that I hadn’t heard of before, I am surprised.
MinCat and I work well conversationally because we are both self-critical, we have shit going on in our heads that we air and then analyse, we can get silly about the same things now and then, and we have a lot of common interests. Both of us have things going on this year and we have shrinked each other time and again to decent effect. We can say things to each other that are sometimes brutally honest, but I like to think that we do so without being outright bitches. We also have theories about Life, the Universe and Everything that we test out on each other and firm up before unleashing them on the world.
My other great online chatbuddy was Curly but her boss killed that for us. Boo! Neverthless, when he was away and our clocks serendipitously synced, we have had some good times.
I mentioned before that at the back of my mind I’ve worried that my closest friends are the ones I’m in touch with online. But I’m beginning to realise that it’s more than a lot of people have and also, I have to acknowledge, that if I had a bunch of people I totally gelled with right here and now, I would still be cherishing these online conversations as much. It would be great if we could have them over coffee every other day, but the Internet allows me to bring my friends to work, so yay to that.
This is less a post about conversation and more a tribute to friendship. This article sums it up for me.
AWWWW *melt*
=)
i couldn’t have said it better.
in some ways online works better cos you can reread, go back and see what someone said later, in their word, and go abck and see thing while the convo is on itself. and you can keep tlaking when someone has to pee. or get lunch etc.
it also takes a special kind of friendship (which we have yay) to not be uspet that someones gone to lunch whenyoure in mid meltdown and know that they will come back and respond
<3
always =)
Oh no, now I feel guilty about leaving for lunch!
A large part of my (very small circle of) close friendships/relationships are online. And I feel exactly the same way. I like it because I can access them regardless of time/place.. I can leave offlines and know I will be heard when said friend is online, I can go back and re-read our conversations and feel fuzzy about it when Im down, or get perspective when Im upset, and like I said in another post — I dont know what Id do without the INterweb, when it comes to friends
But why is the post called shrinking violets?
Yeah, it’s a good point about the offlines, and availability. Answer to post title, below.
same question as Haathi? Why ‘shrinking violets?’ shouldnt it be best friends and taking them to work?
Because we both act as shrinks to each other. We are not really like violets though but I thought shrinking sunflowers would confuse the metaphor too much.
hee let us RECLAIM THE TERM! =D
LOL at shrinking sunflowers!!
Okay, maybe we’ll be daisies
Yay! I got honorable mention despite barely being on chat this year!
Totally! If I see your boss, I will stamp his foot. Or worse.
Happy new year:)
Thank you! Wish you the same!