[Partly post-conversation with Mincat]
…Realising your parents are just people with their own failings, even if they will always be your parents. That sometimes you will counsel them, though they probably won’t listen and if they don’t, it’s okay, they’re just people.
…Getting over the need for their approval. Valuing your own approval.
…Also, realising that’s okay to be a girl. That the tough-guy male version of personality is not the only admirable one. (on that note, read this)
…Realising that black or white is the not always the answer and sometimes the truth lies in gray.
…practising how to hold one’s tongue.