Or at least a person with less drama in her head. At the start of the year, I felt like I didn’t really have many resolutions to make. Well, this could an addendum. So here goes:
First, swallow opinions about:
1. Annoying columnists: they are only doing their best. Yes, they are sloppy with the facts. Yes, they hate being questioned (but didn’t you?). Yes, they’re defensive.
But hey, they could be worse.
2. Annoying colleagues/boss: Again they could be worse. Also, they’re just people who did not go to grad school, or in the case of one of them, who who did, but on the fringes and in strait-laced discipline. Ok I’m bring snotty.
They are allowed to have their own opinions that differ from yours.
Also, if columnists are painful, imagine boss who has to deal with them plus his boss all.the.time. Given that, he’s doing pretty well.
Painful colleague probably has marital issues. Ok and she’s really insecure. Plus, I should have just shut up and not challenge her anodyne outbursts.
Awkward colleague is not self-centered typical male seeking emotional labour of women while doing none but just someone too polite to ask questions needed to emotionally support someone else. Ok no, he is self centered. But he did help one in the early days.
3. Ungenerous thoughts about people that pop into head: e.g. guy you did not think was all that who got through his defence with no revisions. Think how nice for him, and resist the urge to text other person in your cohort to have a bitch fest on the side. (okay, I failed at that). Or friend who you generally like but who was literally unable to stick to the restaurant choice for dinner, possibly because she couldn’t handle going to a new one but couldn’t bear to say so.
I’m serious. I think it might benefit my personality or else reduce general drama in my life to squash these instincts to be bitchy.
On the other hand, I might just burst with the all the unsaid things I’m swallowing.
Time will tell. I think more likely I will vent to designated vent-friendly friend and hope that satisfies me.
Second, shut up and listen more.